Advice from the Archives: A Family Romance

Babies, children and family. What have they got to do with romance?

Well, quite a lot actually!

Although you should always, always keep in mind that the main focus of your story is the romance between your hero and heroine, having children and babies as part of the mix can actually help your characters get to their HEA!


Who doesn’t love a baby? And how sexy is it seeing your hero looking after one? How can your heroine not fall in love with a man who looks at a baby adoringly?

Babies can also be a means to move your story forward.

Secret babies…

…are a great plot device. A heroine who has neglected to mention to the hero that she has had his baby/is pregnant gives rise to a great beginning for a story, with lots of emotional ups and downs before they can resolve their situation.

Miracle babies

A heroine who thinks she can’t get pregnant/a hero longing to be a father is also a good way of ensuring plenty of emotional conflict and really pulling at your readers’ heartstrings. Particularly if she has her miracle baby at the end!

Bringing up baby alone

A hero who is a single dad is automatically sexy, and if he has been left literally holding the baby, he may have trust issues with women, which can form part of his conflict.

A heroine who is pregnant or has a baby can also bring out the hero’s innate protectiveness. Which can give rise to lots of turmoil if the heroine is determined to stay independent, and thinks she doesn’t need a man!


Never work with children and animals, goes the old stage adage, and it could be applied to romance, except that having little people in your story can be another way of helping move the romance forward.

  • A child who isn’t prepared to share his/her parent (of either sex) is a good means of ensuring emotional conflict for your characters.
  • A hero and heroine with a child each have the means of uniting and having a new family and HEA. Particularly if the children act as Cupid!
  • A doting dad hero is also extremely appealing… Fatherhood seems to have enhanced the sexiness of both Brad Pitt and David Beckham. Everyone loves a devoted dad!


Of course, family isn’t all about small children. There are any number of permutations of relatives who can prevent our hero and heroine getting together, from unsupportive dads (how much does our heroine need someone to believe in her!) to overbearing siblings (our hero can have spent his whole life in competition with his older brother), causing your couple endless grief, and providing the root of their emotional conflict.

Family doesn’t need to be all bad, of course… your heroine could be missing the father she was devoted to, your hero could be looking after his sick mum, and unable to commit to a future with the woman he has fallen for. There are any number of emotional situations your couple can find themselves in. Families provide a rich vein of material, so don’t be afraid to mine it for all it’s worth.


Remember, ALL of these characters, be they young or old, are and should always remain SECONDARY to the main romance which has to remain at the forefront. So, if you’re getting too gooey about your hero’s cute little baby, or hung up on the intricacies of your heroine’s weird family dynamic, they’re probably taking over too much. Take a step back and be brutal, cut out the dead wood, and allow your central romance room to breathe so your hero and heroine truly spring to life!

Happy writing!